The 40's...much better than you think
April gave me another birthday this year. Yay!!! Remember all those years when you were young, and you just couldn’t wait until you were a little older? All those milestones you wanted to get to. My kids couldn’t wait until they were old enough to ride without a car seat. My son, at twelve is anticipating getting a driver’s license. I remember the wait to get to 18 and 21, to finish high school and to buy alcohol. Oh, the waiting. It’s funny how we are never happy. We are always trying to get somewhere.
At 43, I really wish time would slow down. I am not in a hurry to get to any new age. As I typed that statement, that made me think. For someone who doesn’t want to get to a new age, I am always looking forward to when things are different. For example, I can’t wait until I don’t have to commute as much or I don’t have to remind my 12-year-old to do his homework 22 times. I am always looking forward to getting out of those types of situations. So even though I don’t want to age, I tend to look forward to something else.
That made me think of two scriptures that have shown up in my Bible readings lately.
John 16:33 "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."
2 Corinthians 12:9-10 But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
The first verse got my attention. The Bible doesn’t say that our life is going to be perfect. We will continue to have problems. I will face problems every day of my life. So why am I in such a hurry to get out of the current situation? There will be a new situation. A new problem. I am not going to go through life without problems.
The second verse reminds me to delight in my weakness and my problems. What? Delight? Yes! Find contentment and joy. Think about that a minute. The world sure would be a nice place if everyone found happiness during their struggles. Can you image happy people everywhere? That’s hard to imagine. We may not be able to change people, but we sure can work on ourselves.
Instead of looking forward to getting out of current situations, what if we really try to find peace during those times? Peace, happiness, contentment? And if you just can’t imagine happiness, can you find something positive to focus on? Try to find the good. It will be difficult and a lifelong work in progress, but happiness sure is better than sadness.
The title of this blog, “The 40’s…much better than you think,” was supposed to be about how much better my 40’s are than my 20’s and 30’s. My plan was to focus on all the good that 40 can bring. Instead, my writing led me to my personal journey and scriptures that have been on my heart lately. However, I still think my title is fitting. The 40’s are much better than I could have imagined. Knowing that life is supposed to be hard and that I have a God that has “overcome the world,” makes each day easier. I don’t have to sweat the small stuff. Every day is a new opportunity to wake up and continue this journey of life full of happiness.
- Natalie Bonkowski