New Year's Resolutions
Let's talk a little today about those New Year's Resolutions you made a few weeks ago. How's it going? Are you doing everything you set out to do? If not, keep reading. If so, keep reading.
If you have or haven't given already up...here's a little statistic for you. Only 8% of people are successful in achieving their resolution. (Check out this link for more interesting New Year's Resolution statistics.) Only 8%! Well...that's not good. So what's going on?
Change is hard!!! Our minds believe that things are to be a certain way. This is our foundation that we have grown to believe. Anytime we decide to change something, the brain is going to fight us all the way. I love this article from Psychology Today that describes how are brains fight us. Be aware that we have to change our thinking and our foundation before we will make that New Year's Resolution a reality.
You can't just flip a switch and change that foundation. If you have always believed you were fat or had negative thoughts about yourself, then you can't simply make a new statement and believe those words. "Today, I am beautiful, capable of maintaining a healthy weight and I love me." Yes, you need to make this new statement today, but you need to repeat it everyday. Your change will not occur until you believe that statement.
After you have your new statement, you need to set your goals. Set your goals with a destination date of 3 years. Yes, 3 years. I know, I know. You want to be skinny before 3 years. I hear ya. But if you are not dedicated and committed to a 3 year change, then it will never happen. Habit change is not going to happen overnight. It takes small baby steps that lead to big change. If you only change one thing at a time, you will set yourself up for success! Do you want to get to your new "achievement" but have it all disappear in only a few weeks? That's what happens when you set short term goals.
Now you are ready to start making changes. Start with simple things that will make you feel good. On days, that you don't meet your goals, DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP! Forgive and move on. Love yourself! Each day is a brand new morning to start again. Since we have allowed 3 years to reach these goals, a few hiccups are expected. They are required to get to where you want to go. The more you fail, the better you will be when you reach your destination.
As always, remember...this life is a journey, not a destination. A marathon, not a sprint. Take each day, slow down a bit and love life to its fullest.
For more info on habit change, contact me at Balance and Baby Steps.
- Natalie Bonkowski